Discipline and Punishments

Spencer was sent home yesterday with a note from his teacher. It read something like this: Spencer had a very bad day today. He punched (a boy) because he didn’t want to play with him. We restricted his activities and he did not receive a good day punch. Tomorrow is a new day, with no mistakes.

As a mom I all I could think was how do I punish him for this? I can’t spank him (or hit him back) that would only confuse him. He had already had his computer game privileges taken away, and the Nintendo would be put away for the next two days. I thought about telling him that the Easter Bunny wasn’t going to come, but I struggled with that. So what was left? After raising my voice (or as many of you know me- yelling) at him and telling him how disappointed I was for his behavior, all I could think to do was lock the play room and send him to his room to think about what he had done. Then I went to a Primary meeting last night and the member of the bishopric that spoke said something that I really need to learn. He said, have you ever disciplined and just felt the spirit drain out of you? Then he said, when you can discipline and still have the spirit with you, then you have done it the right way. As tears came to my eyes all I could think was, I knew I didn’t handle the letter from Spencer’s teacher the right way. I know that is why Spencer acts out- he wants our attention, but I need to learn how to give him positive attention. I tell him several times a day that I love him and try to point out all the good things he does in a day, but it was reconfirmed to me that I need to work harder on that. I really need to change my reactions with him and discipline and give punishments in a loving way.

My Assistant

I feel like I have said it a thousand times, but you’re going to hear it again. I have the best husband in the world!! It has been since November (way too long) since I have had my hair colored. It was looking very BAD. So last night I asked Jamey if he would come down and help me color my hair. He was very willing and boy does he follow directions well. I was so impressed how well we worked together. Of course it’s my personality to want to take over and do it myself (and I tried a couple of times) but it is so hard doing it yourself. You just can’t see, so I had to rely on him to be my eyes. It was quite the test for me as well; to just LET GO. So this morning after styling it I was very happy with the results. Jamey is AMAZING and I love him tons!! I don’t however see him signing up to be my permanent assistant, but it’s good to know that he could help me again in the future. (I wanted to take a picture of Jamey in the get-up, but by the time I thought about it we were covered in color. It was a very funny sight, so cute!)

Birthday Boy

Two years ago today our little Jamison was born into our family. He has been such a wonderful joy to our lives. We didn't do much to celebrate today, we just went and had his pictures taken and then to dinner at Red Robin. They sang happy birthday to him and brought him some balloons and a little ice cream sundae. Boy did Jamison think he was special. We're not sure if he knew what today really was and why everyone kept telling him happy birthday but every time someone did, he got a big smile on his face. We're going to have a small family get together next Saturday to celebrate. We are super thankful to have Jamison here in our family!!

I Have Gone Digital

I did it!! I am loving this new challenge. I just wish I had more time to work on it. I have completed six pages in the last week. (All of Jamison, because he had yet to have one page scrapbooked.) The best part about this is, Jamey is really on board because he is so into computers. So when I asked if I could get an external hard drive, he was very supportive and found me the best deal. So other than the hard drive and one template, I have not spent money. I search the Internet for free downloads, and there are lots!! Here is one of my favorite pages.